The quickest way to become discouraged about being a wife, a mom, a keeper of your home, or even being a Christian, is to start comparing yourself with others. Which by the way the Lord says NOT to do, but I think we all do it from time to time. Then the feelings of inferiority, and the pressure to 'keep up' can overwhelm us. I came across this on LAF this morning. What an encouragement just to rest in the Lord and to do just what He has given ME to do.
Homemaking is not about showing off or "having it all together." You aren't less of a homemaker if you don't grind your own flour, grow your own vegetables, sew all of your family's clothes, teach your children five foreign languages, paint watercolors, play the harp, plan a year's worth of menus at a time, head up the local organic food co-op, or send birthday cards to every person on both sides of your family (including second cousins twice removed!). There are various gifts, talents, and abilities in the Body, and the hand would be foolhardy to say to the eye, "Why don't you get busy planting seeds with the rest of the fingers?" Thank God for the gifts He has given you, cultivate the ones you find in reach, and encourage and praise others for the gifts God has given them. It will never profit me to be jealous of a sister who has an eye for photography, but it will profit me very much to keep her phone number handy when it's time for the annual family portrait!