I try to read Proverbs 31 often to help me remember what it is I am suppose to be doing.
First and foremost vs. 30 says, "...But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised."
Above all I am to fear the Lord, obey Him. He is merciful, loving and kind, but He is also a just God who is very serious about sin.
I took just the words that pertained to my relationship to my husband.
vs.11 The heart of her husband trust in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
So I have to ask, does he trust me? Yes, I know he does, but how often I get careless about things, i.e. time, money, etc... I get lazy in my duties as his wife. I take for granted that he is so good to me. So often I am more concerned for my wants or what I think is best.
Vs. 12 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
I have not always done him good. When I am angry or hurt I tend to lash out or ignore him. Not at all what 1st Corth. teaches us about love. When I am worried about a situation I tend to take things in my own hands instead of simply trusting him as head of our family, in his God ordained position! This is so hard for me even though I know it is God's way.
vs.23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
So am I doing all I can to make my husband successful? Do I make it easier on him to be out, doing his work. Am I helping to build his reputation in public? Am I seeing to it the details at home are taken care of so he will have more time to be the leader God created him to be? A lazy, self-centered, rebellious, arrogant wife, is the down fall of many a good men.
vs. 28-29 Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: "Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all."
Ahhh! I love this one! When my husband praises me it is worth more than ANY paycheck you could give me! Because he DOES trust me, because HE is my career. So often I fail miserably because I live in this body of flesh, but he does know that my goal in life is to be a servant of God, and the main way I do this is to be Jeff's wife, and then the mother of our children. These duties are done 24/7, and by God's grace alone. Oh! Where would we be without grace?
Saturday, October 15, 2005
Posted by Kathy, Jeff's Wife at 5:55 PM