The secret to LOVING Christmas is to put aside ALL expectations, demands and offenses; getting the focus off yourself and embrace Jesus.
When you embrace Jesus, love/obey Him, then you WILL have peace; because after all, it (life) is about Jesus, not us! When life gets rough, it is part of HIM drawing us to know Him better. He wants our total dependence. Once you submit to that, you can rest and have JOY.